Dear Humanity

Human nature won’t change, human actions can

Dear Humanity,

I agree.

I agree that human nature is pretty rough around the edges. I agree that meanness and insecurity are intrinsic pieces of our personality. I agree that, more often than not, we think hurtful/cruel things. And I certainly agree that life can be dark and messy and complicated.

I am not asking you ignore these things. In fact, I am asking you to consider them – to put your darkness in the light so you can take a long, hard look at it. Maybe even laugh at it.

Each one of us has messy, mucky lives. As much as we’d like it to be, life is not a neat little package. It is full of fear. Fear of rejection, fear of disapproval, fear of failure, fear of whatever-it-is for you.

It is human to fear. It is human because, deep down, we know we aren’t perfect. And that scares us because it sure feels like we need to be sometimes, doesn’t it? It is why we question ourselves so often: What will my friends think? How could I be so stupid? Why would my parents say that to me?

But, to be blunt: Screw human nature.

Seriously. We can wallow in our imperfections or we can actively work to be better. We can think mean thoughts, but we can also go out and do kind things. We can stand around in the dark or we can look for the light.

As Albus Dumbledore says, “Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.”

Sure, human nature has some problems. But I like to live the solution. I invite you to do the same.

Choose Love,


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Why Do You Serve?

We know that in order to love people (love the verb) we must serve them, meeting their legitimate needs. We’ve learned to ask the question, “How Can I Help?” as a way to figure out ways we can serve and love others. These are necessary practices essential to being a servant leader, however it is important to think about WHY we are serving. Are we serving others because we know we are supposed to in order to be considered a “servant leader”? Are we serving because we know it’s the “right” thing to do? Are we serving so that others notice us and recognize our efforts?

If we are serving others for those reasons, we are not serving or loving properly. Instead, we are serving others as a way to serve ourselves.

This doesn’t mean we shouldn’t choose to serve if we feel it is the right thing to do in a given situation or to build and strengthen our character muscles. The important distinction is: the core of WHY we serve should be to show agape love to others because we have made the choice to. We have chosen to serve others because we love them, not because we want to get something out of it for ourselves.

When we learn to serve in this way our rewards are so much greater than if we were to serve with self-serving motives. Because we serve out of love with no stipulations or expectations of anything in return, it no longer matters what we get out of it. We are living the life of a true servant leader which, in my opinion, is the greatest reward of all.


A Little Discipline

“People crave attention and appreciation more than they do bread.” (Mother Teresa)

It is safe to say that people would consider Mother Teresa to be one of the most influential leaders that the world has ever seen. It is easy to agree with her positive outlook and optimistic approach, but why don’t we pay attention and give appreciation more to people? The answer is actually very simple: WE ARE ALL NATURALLY SELFISH! That might sting a little bit, but it’s true, YOU ARE SELFISH. You know what? I AM SELFISH TOO!

Let’s face it, we choose ourself over others daily. We get frustrated when we don’t get our way, we get annoyed when our parents (many whom do a great deal for us) ask us to help out around the house or spend time with the family, and we spend a majority of our paychecks (or the money given to us by our parents) on ourselves and on things we don’t really need. Why are social networking sites so popular? Because it’s all about me me me. (see link for example)

Sooo…what do we do about it? Read more »

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Simply Serve

Peace begins with a smile. -Mother Teresa

This site is dedicated to simple lessons, thoughts & ideas regarding servant leadership and its ability to impact yourself, others & the world. The most influential people in history took time to serve others — people like Ghandi, Martin Luther King, Jr, Jesus & Mother Teresa built influence by consistently dedicating time, energy & love to others. How can we use this in our everyday lives? Why is it important? What makes it difficult? What makes it worth it?

To Serve Others will take time to answer these questions. But to start, simply serve & smile.

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